Virginity still seems to be one of desired qualities of a woman when it comes to marriage. While not being so much of a pre-requisite for a man, many in-laws and would-be husbands expect the girl to be a virgin. As far as parenting goes, once a girl attains puberty, virginity feels like the elephant in the room. Mythology and popular culture have played their part in inculcating a gender-biased response to sex. In our mythology, virginity was not limited to women and it was not just about the body but also about the mind, over time it has narrowed down to sex.
The History Of The Concept Of Virginity In India, And What Makes It Such A Big Deal Today
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Despite all the education and experience, most grooms in India still seek virgin brides, thus deeming chastity as a quality. Sex before marriage among men is fun, but for women it is something which could cost you a lot more than a matrimonial prospect. A Kolkata-based professor is under fire for comparing virgin brides to a sealed bottle of aerated beverages. He comes across as a narrow-minded man, for whom women are as human as a packet of biscuits or a bottle of Cola.
Women’s morality and virginity in Indian culture
The practice, said to be years old, determines whether the bride is a virgin or not by looking for bloodstains on a white bedsheet that the newly-wed couple is instructed to use for intercourse on their wedding night. A group of Kanjarbhati youths who have been actively trying to stop what they consider to be a heinous ritual have petitioned the government to make it illegal. They have even threatened the youth group and their families with a social boycott that would see them excluded from normal social and commercial relations in the community.
Within the past few months, as I was gathering research and materials for this article, I met people who coincidentally wanted to speak to me about this very same topic. Some felt that virginity is an archaic construct. Sex, to them, is just another way of enjoying yourself, like eating ice cream or a trip to the beach. How, when, and who it happens with is inconsequential, as long as there is mutual consent.